Religion

During a bible study in which I participate every so often with some other grad students, one of them brought my attention to the following passage:

You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But now I tell you: whoever looks at a woman and lusts after her is guilty of committing adultery with her in his heart.

--Matthew 5:27-29

I've heard the passage before, but my mind took particular notice of it this time and has been wrestling with it ever since. Does this only apply to a married man? Why is it necessarily wrong?

My Personal Experience, girls love a sexually aware guy. Its essential. To be even considered has boyfriend material (if that's what I wanted it), the girl still has to be sexually interested. Furthermore, her interest is entirely subconscious; for the most part, she can't explain it and can't control it. I've asked... she just FEELS it. It's an elegant system, really. Her attraction responds to social cues and a certain communication pattern that demonstrate the guy is strong, confident, dominant, and in control of himself.

Instead, should I be ashamed of this, be all anxious and afraid of a girl who I want to talk to because I think she's hott. It's a sin, right? Would then acting on that feeling also be wrong?

If the attraction needs to happen first and it's adulterous sin to feel attraction, the process of initiating a relationship, of making any girl feel attraction, is also adulterous, which then begs the question, "what's the non-adulterous way to start an interaction?"

While I'm always conscious of the possibility that I could be using my reason against the truth and that humans can find a reason to backup whatever they want to be true, all I know is that this process--making a girl laugh, smile, playfully hit me, get that look in her eye, all with my confidence, poise, and control of the situation--has brought me to feeling closer to God than anything I've done up to this point in my life. It's an intoxicating rush to get that fun, vibrant, sexually charged interaction going with a woman, and it definitely seems to be more interesting for her.